One spiritual principle that cannot be violated is that you cannot pass on to others what you have not first received yourself. This is very hard to do when someone else has hurt us deeply and we find it so difficult to really forgive them.
When we feel the other person is wrong and they are the ones who have caused us pain then why should we give them a release from the debt they so clearly owe?
If we do not forgive them then we will be permanently emotionally bound to them because the issue will never be resolved. We wake up every day with the memory of this person and our pain as we literally relive the event in our minds over and over again.
The only way out of this bondage is to have the courage to ask ourselves what percentage of the problem is our responsibility. After all by now we are also wrong because of what we said or the anger and bitterness we feel inside.
If our responsibility is only twenty percent of the problem we must realize that we now have to resolve our relationship with our Heavenly Father. We can never justify our wrong behavior as a Christian regardless of what someone else has done or said.
Once we have been forgiven and receive the grace we need then for the first time we are in a position to pass that same grace on to the other person. Now we have peace instead of the pain of the past and regardless of how the other person responds to God’s grace we are free.
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